One of my dearest friends sent me this quote today:
“The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people who you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are.”
The older I become and the more experiences I go through in this life…the more apparent this has truly become to me. Not just with men in my life but also with friends. I have had some REALLY GOOD friends throughout my life. But usually they come and go after a short time or “season.” I believe we do meet everyone for a reason…to teach us some kind of lesson. Or for us to possibly teach them something. I have been lucky enough to have 3 amazing “best friends” throughout my life and I can proudly say they are still there for me today, as I am there for them. One I have known since I was less than one year old. The second I met in grade school years. And the third I met in college. I think God put each of them in my life at those particular stages for a reason and I honestly do not know what I would do without these women in my life today. There have been periods of time I have gone without talking to each of them (sometimes years) but that doesn’t change ANYTHING. We love each other and help each other and are just there no matter what…even if we do not always agree.
Another thing that I am realizing is that I do not necessarily need a man in my life to be happy. I have been in 5 long term relationships in my adult life (2 of those marriages) and yet I am still single. But I am happy with ME now. And although I do hope to have a long lasting relationship someday…I am ok alone. And I have grown and learned from each of my relationships…with men and with girlfriends. “Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.” Life is a learning experience. When I was 20 I thought I knew it all…wow was I wrong. It has been an exciting journey for sure…good, bad, happy, sad…all moments that have shaped me into the woman I am today. And I appreciate everyone who has been along on this ride with me. It truly is ok if someone leaves…it just helps us figure out who is real.
Today I am thankful for true relationships…and for those who have been on this ride with me enjoying the journey…