The most valuable lesson I’ve learned from the men I’ve been with in past failed relationships and marriages is that happiness does not come from another person. Happiness comes from within. And inner happiness comes from being confident and secure with who you are and knowing that no matter what, you are loved by God. His love is unconditional. He doesn’t set high expectations of you then criticize you or blame you when you don’t live up to those expectations like humans do.
The second most valuable lesson I’ve learned is that we all learn these things at different times. Being aware of this gives me the responsibility to forgive others who aren’t exactly there yet instead of giving up on them.
And the third most valuable lesson I’ve learned is that sometimes we have to forgive people and then love them from a distance until they learn these lessons themselves. This isn’t giving up. This is giving space. When someone talks down to you, tries to control your emotions, doesn’t support your dreams, doesn’t have your back when the going gets tough, asks you to sacrifice things that are dear to you to appease only their needs placing yours on the back burner…the relationship is one sided, unhealthy, and controlling.
Do yourself a favor and let go. If you’re not growing, get going. Set yourself free and let them heal on their own. It’s really the only way it truly works. They will thank you one day…I promise.
Everything will work out how it’s supposed to in God’s perfect time.
Blessings,
Stacey ~ iamalive